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What does it look like for an INF type to be in an introverted loop?
Beth is asking about what it looks like to be stuck in an introverted loop for an INFJ. So I'll do both of the types, INFJ and INFP.
Quick Tips #27: Connection Between Depression And Inner Children
Question: “I'm interested in the connection between the inner children and depression. Could you tell me how you see it?” Absolutely - what a great question! Depression is an exaggerated feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. It's like you don't have hope AND you can't do the things that would start giving you hope. Depression is a feeling of complete loss of what could be possible. You're no longer thinking possibilities, you’re now thinking you can’t. Depression tends to
Quick Tips #26: Will I Ever Find My Dream Job?
Question: “I'm starting to worry that I will never find my dream job. I'm doing one job for five years and then another job for five years, and so on, never being able to settle and be happy with a job that I have. Will I ever find my perfect job? “ This is a fabulous question, simply because a lot of INF-types struggle with knowing what they're supposed to be doing. The great news is that you're not supposed to stay in one job for all of your life. If you did, it would basic
Quick Tips #21: Naming Your Inner Children
Question: “You suggest naming my inner child. Do I give the 3 and 10 year olds different names or do I use the same one to represent both?” Awesome question! To give you a short answer, it all depends on what feels right for you! I personally started with having just one name for both of my girls. However, as my 3 year old started to stand out from behind the 10 year old’s shadow, it became clear to me that they are two very different people. As I wanted to honour both of the
Quick Tips #15: How To Improve Your Self-Esteem
Question: I have a pretty low self-esteem. How can I overcome negative self-talk and grow self-worth and self-love? That’s a great question. I think a lot of INF types tend to struggle with this to one degree or another. We tend to be naturally predisposed to thinking that there is something wrong with us or that we are not worthy of love. Often when we are growing up, we are not made to feel normal and important and that we matter. As a result, our self-esteem can really pl
Quick Tips #11: Inner Parenting When Triggered
Question: What can I do when I feel like my inner child has completely taken over and my inner parent seems unable to regain control and calm my inner child? I realise the purpose of this work is to strengthen the inner parent and teach the inner child that they are safe and loved so that this kind of thing doesn't happen very often. However, until that time when I feel more proficient with this work, I could really use some in-the-moment techniques to help get me back on tra
