Question: “I'm interested in the connection between the inner children and depression. Could you tell me how you see it?” Absolutely - what a great question! Depression is an exaggerated feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. It's like you don't have hope AND you can't do the things that would start giving you hope. Depression is a feeling of complete loss of what could be possible. You're no longer thinking possibilities, you’re now thinking you can’t. Depression tends to
Question: “I fear public speaking and have started to get anxiety attacks being the centre of attention. What can I do to get more comfortable around people having their focus on me?” That's a fabulous question. Many of us introverts struggle with putting our thoughts, feelings and our innermost knowledge out there in the world, so you're not alone. I would tackle a fear of public speaking with my extroverted processes. As an INF-type your driver and your 10-year-old are intr
Question: “The relationship with my mother is draining me. In our interactions, she is throwing in negative remarks about me and my life and has a cynical way of projecting her feelings around her. I have started to ignore her comments by not responding to them, but they still linger in me. She is not open to taking any kind of personality test or trying to better our relationship. I have tested as INFP. How do I protect myself from this negativity and not take everything she
Question: "Being authentic in my emotion and using my inner parent, my auxiliary process, seems to make me look like I’m somewhat emotionally unstable to the Sensors, which are most people around me. People feel uncomfortable around me because they feel I’m unpredictable. Of late, this is ringing bell of why I forced my 10 year old process to step up when I was doing my university. I felt like the inner parent process was too impractical to facilitate what needed to be done.
Question: What can I do when I feel like my inner child has completely taken over and my inner parent seems unable to regain control and calm my inner child? I realise the purpose of this work is to strengthen the inner parent and teach the inner child that they are safe and loved so that this kind of thing doesn't happen very often. However, until that time when I feel more proficient with this work, I could really use some in-the-moment techniques to help get me back on tra